Carrying on from the post on low moods and January blues…Forgetfulness and memory loss – how frustrating are these very common symptoms of the menopause.
Such underrated symptoms and often dismissed as just part of getting older — they are sooooo annoying!
Add to that the pressures of everyday life and the amount of multi tasking we have to do, it’s no wonder with the addition of the odd fluctuating hormone why these two occur more often than we want them to!
Common terms bandied about when referring to these symptoms…which also refers to the low moods swings… brain fog, red mist… life does generally sometimes just get a bit foggy and overwhelming doesn’t it.
I often used to think I should walk around with a notepad hung around my neck — I would make lists, then forget where I put them, only to find them written on another pad 2 days later!
We are now sometimes referred to as the ‘sandwich generation’ — caught between those delightful, equally hormonal teenagers and even more forgetful parents — we become the ultimate PA to the whole family without even realising it — usually only falling down when it comes to looking after ourselves. Sound familiar?
These two ‘joyous’ symptoms of the menopause can often creep up on us starting in the perimenopausal years. I’m sure not so long ago you prided yourselves on your slick organisational skills, sharp wit and recall — but now it’s a miracle if you remember to put mascara on as well as the rest of your makeup and I lost track of the amount of times I ended up in the supermarket with my slippers on! All very frustrating when coping with work and a busy family life ( especially when you catch said teenage children rolling their eyes or trying to catch you out — even though they seem to get away with lying in and missing tutorials, forgetting half of their rugby kit …). Add to that some of the other debilitating symptoms like fine motor skills being affected…ever found yourself becoming more clumsy or dropping things?…which is why so many women either reduce their hours, take on less pressurised roles within the workplace or, unfortunately end up taking early retirement.
Please don’t put up with these symptoms there are lots of different ways you can help yourself … first and foremost take a moment and think about yourself for a change instead of the rest of the family…yes, you are allowed to!
Have a good look at your lifestyle — what you eat is so important. There is a brilliant article by the dietician and medical nutrition manager Imogen Watson in one of the recent Menopause Matters magazine — excellent advice take a look
Do you incorporate enough exercise into your life — I know I bang on about exercise in most blog posts but it is so important and really does help! Exercise releases endorphins which then counteract that stress hormone cortisol from being released, exacerbated when you are anxious and frazzled. I don’t know about you but if I’m out for a jog or going for a swim all of a sudden my brain has the space and time to think…only problem being, as soon as I come back from exercising I have to rush to a notepad or computer and jot everything down or I would have forgotten it!
If your symptoms are severe and they are affecting your quality of life — get yourself to your GP / practice nurse to discuss options available.
One option…HRT. It doesn’t just help the physical symptoms it can really help the psychological/emotional ones as well. Sometimes it can be a case of sorting the draining, physical ones out first and then when you have more energy, to think more clearly and objectively, you are able to tackle the ones you probably didn’t even realise you were suffering from.
Anti-depressants are not advised as the first line of treatment for these symptoms but they definitely have their place in the medical world and sometimes are an option for women who maybe can’t or don’t want to take HRT — NICE guidelines 2015
Relaxing — definitely helps — giving yourself and that foggy brain of yours some space and time whether through simply having time to read a book, plan to get a massage ( should be on the NHS!) attending a yoga or pilates class or, one of the simplest ways… run a bath, pop in your favourite bath oil, get the music on, to drown out other family members and lock the door for half an hour!
One good point to end on — for the majority of us these symptoms are only temporary, sometimes only returning when we’re all octogenarians and for some not even then!
So it’s up to you — unfortunately no-one is going to do this for you — start with the lifestyle choices first…small steps are sustainable…
If anyone is interested in organising an information workshop within the workplace or the community please get in touch — send me a message on the contact us page and I will get back in touch.
Wellbeing Radio : https://tinyurl.com/yc39u4lh
Calm : https://tinyurl.com/y72ff4e7
Headspace : https://tinyurl.com/ybzlpvxd
Insight timer : https://tinyurl.com/y4e63n6h
Menopause Matters article : https://menopausematters.co.uk/issue49/#p=24
Subscribe to Menopause Matters – highly recommend! https://menopausematters.co.uk/magazine/subscribe.php
Exercise so important have a look at previous post : http://letstalkmenopause.co.uk/exercise-fitness-fun-tips-help-get-inspired/
NICE guidelines 2015 : https://www.nice.org.uk/guidance/ng23/ifp/chapter/managing-your-symptoms#low-mood
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